I wanted to wait and share this news on the blog after we spoke to our families and made them aware of our plans first.
Originally Marrvelous and I had envisioned a wedding celebration next summer (either Memorial or Labor Day to capitalize on the long weekend), in the city, with roughly 130 guests. We thought if we waited until next year, it would give us more time to save and plan, as well as give the Scottish guests a lot more time to prepare. As months went by (and as witnessed here) we were struggling with what we wanted to do, what we wanted our wedding to look like, feel like, etc. I admit, I definitely got caught up in a lot of the blogs - I mean, have you seen Style Me Pretty? And during that time, we felt so stressed, so confused, there was definitely a bit more bickering...all of the emotions that neither one of us wanted to associate with our celebration.
With all of this going on, we sat down and decided to talk about the goals of our wedding. As I talked about before, we needed to have an honest conversation with each other and determine what we wanted our wedding to feel like, to say about us and how to make sure it was true to who we are as a couple. And some of the biggest items that we pulled from that conversation was that
1. We wanted one. For sure.
2. We needed our immediate families and our closest friends there.
3. It is more important to us that the marriage and our relationship is stable - not only emotionally, but financially. And that we don't hinder our other life goals for the wedding.
So what is the final word? Well, we're 175 days away from getting married in front of approximately 40 guests - our families and a handful of friends! On December 19, 2010 we're going to have an intimate Sunday morning ceremony in Philadelphia followed by a brunch reception at a local restaurant. I can honestly say that since we made this choice and since we have spoken with our families about it, we are overwhelmed with joy and excitement. It just feels right.
I do want to make a note that there is obviously a piece in both of us that will miss our extended families and our larger circle of friends that day. Our lives are what they are today because of these people. With that in mind though, we also discussed having a smaller party here in Philly for our US friends (think house party). And we will also now go to Scotland next summer to properly celebrate with our family and friends there. [followed at that time by a honeymoon in Europe - can't wait!]
Even just writing this post has put a smile on my face! I am so excited for the path we've chosen and the way it's all going to fall into place (I really disliked the fact that we wouldn't have been back to Scotland until 2012, so I have to say, adding that party next summer really made me happy). But not only that, the fact that Marrvelous and I could sit down and discuss these things and be able to focus on what is best for our marriage fills me with strength and confidence in what we will be able to do as we move through life together.
With all of that said - 175 days!!!! YES! And man do we have a lot of stuff to do!